How can I speak?

Does anyone struggle with talking to people? Not asking questions. Not listening. But struggle with talking about themselves? As if, the other person in the convo has something better to say, a better life, or just isn't interested in what I have to say or who I am?
  Now, the later has proven to be untrue a majority of the time. They do care about me and would most likely be interested in my life, if I could only let them know about it. But I am not interesting. I don't care about drama or trying to making something more dramatic than it is. My life isn't ossome, but it definitely has good days...and bad. So, in conversations with friends or acquaintances, how do I express that?
  TED talks has a ten minute video about talking so someone so they will listen. I found it helpful, as I am guilty of all the negative things he brings up. And, guilty of all the positive ones as well. I know I complain and have excuses and am not perfect. https://www.ted.com/talks/julian_treasure_how_to_speak_so_that_people_want_to_listen?language=en
  I know I also want to talk to people and listen to them because I genuinely love and care about them. When they ask me how I am doing, why do I feel as though I have a 3 second response time, or I have lost them and they are bored? I do not feel comfortable talking to others, because it it appears either their mind is elsewhere or I am boring. How do I engage their attention?
   I do see a counselor once a month. I pay the counselor. That is where I am truly confident to say what I think and feel, because the counselor is being paid to listen.
  So....my new theory is this: get out of my self! I am so focused on me that I am losing sight on how I can love and serve Jesus by listening to others and caring for them. And Jesus always ALWAYS! hears me. He is always there for me and will never leave me. I am blessed to have that wonderful counselor and unconditional love. Praise the Lord! And I pray He would continue to help me see His way instead of my own.
  I am blessed with family, friends and a wonderful husband! I have no reason to complain and I do not really even mean to complain. I am just not great at talking. When people tell their engagement stories or birthing stories, they are so elaborate and enticing! When I tell mine, I am done in two sentences. But here is what I found. It is truly not about me. Conversations are for getting to know the other person. How can I love them? How can I pray? And how can we build each other in Him? Praise the Lord for the trials He brings in our lives and for His forgiveness.